Boys, when do you become men? They say a mission is what helps you mature and grow. Is that true? I continue to be proven over and over again that that is not the case.
I just have to blog about this even though it may make things awkward if this guy reads this blog.
Last night I asked a guy to come help me out with a proposal because I have never written one and this guy seemed to be the perfect candidate. Plus he is cute and has impressed me time and time again. You could say I had a crush.
He seemed happy (considering he has made an effort to visit me at work and hang with me I knew that he would want to help ) and I was excited to have him over. So he came and brought a side kick cause I guess he isn't ready to roll alone.
When they came in I could sense right away that he didn't want to be here. Now I will admit I am much more sensitive to things like this, it's what I love to study. I observe and read into actions.
About 20 min into being here and with no progress on my proposal I watched this young man reach into his pocket, grab his phone and send a text over to his side kick. Wanting to be wrong I watched intently his side kick and within seconds he looked at his phone then looked up and quickly engaged even more into the convo. The sidekick was smooth but I knew in just a few minutes he would make the move to leave. All the meanwhile I was trying to make awkward conversation with the boy that was suppose to help me.
Recognizing that I was right I decided to just start pushing them out. I was done. I am the WORST girl to try and beat around the bush with. This is what I study and I am fully aware of people and their actions. Having ADHD allows me to be aware of numerous convos in one group situation. They left and I after venting for a little while I got a pity text from this boy apologizing for not being able to help more.
His side kick kindly stopped by later to drop off an example proposal to me and of course I had to call him and his buddy out. At first he lied and said that didn't happen but I in fear of being wrong and looking like the girl who reads too much into things I dug a little deeper and found that I had observed that situation perfectly. Side kick was shocked at my awareness level of the situation and informed me that his friend said he was not feeling well and had lots to do and instead of informing me of this used his side kick to get him out of the situation.
All this boy had to do was tell me he wasn't feeling well and couldn't stay long. Some of you may think I am taking this way to personal and being way too sensitive.
I don't think it is too much to ask that boys step it up and are honest with women. We really just want you to be honest. We can handle it. At least I can because really I'd rather hang with people that want to hang instead doing it out of pity. I really don't need your pity.
I just have to blog about this even though it may make things awkward if this guy reads this blog.
Last night I asked a guy to come help me out with a proposal because I have never written one and this guy seemed to be the perfect candidate. Plus he is cute and has impressed me time and time again. You could say I had a crush.
He seemed happy (considering he has made an effort to visit me at work and hang with me I knew that he would want to help ) and I was excited to have him over. So he came and brought a side kick cause I guess he isn't ready to roll alone.
When they came in I could sense right away that he didn't want to be here. Now I will admit I am much more sensitive to things like this, it's what I love to study. I observe and read into actions.
About 20 min into being here and with no progress on my proposal I watched this young man reach into his pocket, grab his phone and send a text over to his side kick. Wanting to be wrong I watched intently his side kick and within seconds he looked at his phone then looked up and quickly engaged even more into the convo. The sidekick was smooth but I knew in just a few minutes he would make the move to leave. All the meanwhile I was trying to make awkward conversation with the boy that was suppose to help me.
Recognizing that I was right I decided to just start pushing them out. I was done. I am the WORST girl to try and beat around the bush with. This is what I study and I am fully aware of people and their actions. Having ADHD allows me to be aware of numerous convos in one group situation. They left and I after venting for a little while I got a pity text from this boy apologizing for not being able to help more.
His side kick kindly stopped by later to drop off an example proposal to me and of course I had to call him and his buddy out. At first he lied and said that didn't happen but I in fear of being wrong and looking like the girl who reads too much into things I dug a little deeper and found that I had observed that situation perfectly. Side kick was shocked at my awareness level of the situation and informed me that his friend said he was not feeling well and had lots to do and instead of informing me of this used his side kick to get him out of the situation.
All this boy had to do was tell me he wasn't feeling well and couldn't stay long. Some of you may think I am taking this way to personal and being way too sensitive.
I don't think it is too much to ask that boys step it up and are honest with women. We really just want you to be honest. We can handle it. At least I can because really I'd rather hang with people that want to hang instead doing it out of pity. I really don't need your pity.
not to over analyze the situation, but people are like this in general, not just boys. if they are truly nice, they do not want to disappoint, rather they go through with what has been asked of them, even if they can't or do not have the time to do it. in the end, they get the same result from others, disappointment because they fall short of what has been asked. i don't know about you, but i've been in his situation before. i should have said "sorry i can't " or "sorry i don't have the time", but i fear disappointing and truly want to serve others. give him another chance, but yes, sometimes people have a hard time being honest.
ReplyDeleteI am totally with you. Please just be honest! Don't fake the funk. ;) I can handle the truth. What I can't handle is lies, games, or deceit. Keep being your awesome self, and it will all be okay. You're too freaking amazing to have to deal with this kind of crap! Love you, girl. <3
ReplyDeleteyou know what I am as honest a guy as they come but here is the real problem in your situation if you like the guy don't ask him to help with your homework no1 wants to spend their free time doing someone elses homework step it up and ask him to do something fun maybe he won't ditch out on you in 10 min
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