FOR ALL YOU CRAZY GIRLS

CRAZY BREE

That was a nickname given to me my very first year up here at BYU Idaho while playing in the basketball league.

CRAZY and Bree have been put into the same sentence on numerous occasions. Whether it be for my overly talkative ways, my awesome dance moves, my stalker methods for my roommates and friends (oh and maybe myself at times) or for my boldness and fearless ways, many have had the same thought “dang that girl is CRAZY!”

One type of crazy I never want to be is that CRAZY type in relationships. You know that type, the girl who changes her mind everyday with what she wants. The one who will make out with you and then the next day say she never wants to talk to you again. The one who says she can handle certain things/situations but then all of sudden she can’t. She becomes an emotional roller coaster, a wreck.

I am sure many of reading this just had a name of some girl cross your mind because there are plenty out there. A guy once told me that every girl is CRAZY but the question is how CRAZY is she and can you handle it?

Why are we girls CRAZY at times? Why do we read into everything and allow our emotions to control us in so many aspects of our lives?

A lot of it has to do with estrogen, or that time of the month. Some of it at times is just the princess in us who gets frustrated when she doesn’t get what she wants.

Mostly a girl gone CRAZY is product of a relationship that goes against her natural instinct. Let me explain. We as women need the upperhand. The door must be open, the dinner must be paid for, and the kiss must be right and often. We need to be wanted and it needs to be clear that the man would choose us over anything else, that he will take care of us.

Basically we go CRAZY because the man is not giving us what we need.

Now I am girl who loves to take control. I don’t mind getting a boy to ask me out. I don’t mind encouraging the conversation or even preparing a dinner for the first date. I do believe that there are roles but you don’t have fit the mold of what society believes men and women should be.

BUT we are still women. And women need to be wanted and it needs to be clear that the man is willing to fight tooth and nail for her. It is not natural for us to fight to start a relationship, even when we want to (oh, and I have tried).

So why do we go CRAZY? Because we don’t believe he will fight for us. We see that we have lost the upperhand and so badly want it again. So we try and fight to get back in that place and when we don’t our emotions kick in and we realize that we are losing so we go into survivor mode.

We then have to decide if we are going to continue fighting. If we fight we possibly can win but if leave we possible can find that man who will give us the upperhand. Thus is the battle that rages on. We have to decide whether we will continue to fight. We want to, so we try, but then we realize it goes against everything we are intended to be which is completely admired by the man we are dating or married to.

We are in an emotional battle which makes for an awesome rollercoaster but can definitely leave u feeling sick. This is when she is fickle and indicisive. One part is telling her to fight and the other is telling her to leave and gain the upperhand somewhere else.

The world may see this girl as CRAZY due to the indecisiveness or the constant calls, text messages, or the random yelling match in the middle of a party with all close friends. But really this CRAZY girl is just trying to get her position back, just like mother nature intended her to. And most likely she has been lead to believe (by the man) that at one point she could win this battle.

Now, men, do you want to have this CRAZY girl in your life? No, so let me suggest something. Decide what you want and be clear about it, CLEAR AS GLASS. If she likes you and you do not see it going anywhere BE CLEAR, do not let her think there is a chance. Cause if she thinks there is a chance she will try to fight and when she has lost the upperhand she will go CRAZY, its inevitable.

So either just gives us the upperhand or choose to completely seperate yourself because most likely she can't just hang without wanting to fight to win you over and then the battle over what she wants and what mother nature intended will continue.