True Love

growing up watching chick flicks i created my personal definition of "love".

the heart wrenching, blood flow stopping, butterfly feeling in the stomach is what made me fall in "love" boy after boy.

but if it was love, why didn't it last?

because true love takes time.

and to be REAL it needs to be continual, it needs to last.

"True love is a process. True love requires personal action. Love must be continuing to be real. Love takes time. Too often expediency, infatuation, stimulation, persuasion, or lust are mistaken for love. How hollow, how empty if our love is no deeper than the arousal of momentary feeling or the expression in words of what is no more lasting than the time it takes to speak them."

(Love Takes Time; Marvin J. Ashton

i often wonder why it is that relationships don't last.

did they really love each other?

i think they think they do. they feel something that is different and unique, infatuation/stimulation.

but when that is gone what is left? the opposite sex who smells bad, can't dress, says embarrassing things, struggles in making decisions, is too emotional, too careless, the list can go on and on.

so how do you continue to love? how does one ever really find TRUE LOVE?

"Love demands action if it is to be continuing. Love is a process. Love is not a declaration. Love is not an announcement. Love is not a passing fancy. Love is not an expediency. Love is not a convenience."

well i, like many of you, am still trying to figure it out.

i am currently in the "process".

maybe this time around it will last...